I recently finished Made to Stick, by Chip Heath and Dan Heath and thoroughly enjoyed this book. One of my favorite portions described the “Mother Teresa Principle”. One of this saintly woman’s famous teachings was, ”If I look at the mass, I will never act. If I look at the one, I will.”

Made to Stick talks about a research study that compared the effectiveness of donation requests using different approaches. One donation request provided statistics about the masses of people in one region of Africa facing hunger and poverty. The second letter simply told the story of one needy girl from that region and said that all money donated would go to her. Obviously, the second letter was tremendously more successful.
People are much more willing to help if they know of a specific need, instead of just helping a cause. In other words, when people learn of a huge problem they often feel that “someone should do something”, but they feel the problem is too large for them to solve themselves, so they do nothing. It’s kind of like a room that is so messy you don’t know where to start, so you go do something else. However, when we connect with a specific person with a specific need, we are much more likely to sacrifice and help, because we know we can do something to make a huge difference to that person with whom we are connected. The specific connection makes the service much more real and meaningful.
The Adoption.com Photolisting is an example of this principle that I have observed first hand. When prospective adoptive parents are able to see pictures and read bios of orphans they often connect with and then adopt a specific child. Many parents choose to adopt internationally after connecting with a specific child, who otherwise would not have adopted. Many parents who thought they only wanted to adopt a healthy Caucasian infant in the U.S. end up adopting an older, special needs child from a foreign country because of the connection which they formed with that child by using the photolisting.
If I came to your church congregation and spoke about the many foster children in your state who need to be adopted, I might have a few families come talk to me after the service. However, if I brought 12 of those foster children with me and explained that I needed emergency foster homes for those children that night, ALL of the children would be taken in (if the families were qualified), and most of those children (if not all) would be permanently adopted by families in that congregation.
Think about it. How many of us would, without a second thought, take in a starving orphan who showed up on our doorstep needing a place to stay? I believe there is enough food, money, compassion, time, and great people in this world to solve huge social crises such as the world orphan crisis, hunger, needless death to curable diseases, and poverty. The problem is not a lack of resources, but instead is effectively connecting those resources with great people who would be willing to help.
So, then the question is how we can create those connections on a scale large enough to solve the otherwise insurmountable social problems in our world. Kiva has showed us one of the large pieces of this solution by helping to everyday people, like my family, connect with and lend to entrepreneurs in third-world countries. On-the-ground organizations help qualify and administer the loans. And, their repayment rate would put to shame EVERY major bank in the United States. My family tried to make a loan around Christmas time through Kiva, and the system was a little too effective. There were more than thousands of people making loans and only four entrepreneurs seeking loans. By the time we read through a newly posted loan and tried to participate in the loan, the full loan had already been fully funded. There were more people at that time trying to loan than people listed seeking loans. I just looked at Kiva as I wrote this blog entry, and it looks like there are now 208 active entrepreneurs listed seeking loans. However, just in the last week more than 2,000 loans have been made by people like you and I, totaling more than $750,000. This is another example that there is an abundance of great people, food, money, compassion and time to solve the world’s greatest social problems. We just have to figure out how to create the specific connections.
I want to build my future career greatly around this concept of creating connections to solve world social crises. How can we more effectively build connections between great people in need and the great people who would love to help if they were just connected with specific situations?
Posted on January 10th, 2009 by Nathan Gwilliam
Filed under: Adoption, Charity, Ending Poverty, Entrepreneurship, Ethics, Giving Back, Global Orphan Crisis, Innovation, Microlending, Social Enterprise, e-Business



Thanks for the post, Nathan – good ideas about the specific connection. Our family has been associated with Unitus for microloans for a while now. Unitus might be an alternative for you if Kiva doesn’t have the capacity you need.
Thanks for your efforts on behalf of others in the world. Please let us know how we can help.
Owen Allen
http://blogs.msdn.com/oallen
Thanks for the link to Unitis Owen. They look like a great organization.
One huge issue, though, Nathan, when it comes to international adoption is the impact of efforts of some who refuse to look child-to-child, but rather tar the picture with the broad brush of corruption and greed.
As parents, we fall in love with our children easily when they are an idea, then an image, then scraps of information we so carefully glean from what comes our way. Those opposed to IA prefer to toss out grenades labeled “cultural genocide” or “money-driven industry” and ignore the reality of an individual child, whether this be from knee-jerk reactions to media hype … so often based on misinformation … or personal cases of sour grapes.
Addressing this, as you well know, has been a driving motivation for my work over the years, with the goal of narrowing the aperture to highlight one child, one family, and train the focus there.
Dehumanizing orphans in favor of grandstanding for some cause perceived to be noble is a problem we must all face and fight.
And thanks for the Kiva plug. Good on ya!
Well said Sandra…as usual.
Mother Teresa also said “If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten that we belong to each other.” All of us – not just the ones who agree with our point of view. I could find no quotes of hers that referenced sour grapes.
This too: “Jesus said love one another. He didn’t say love the whole world.” In the adoption world, “one another” includes those we may not like listening to – those who are dissident, angry, loud, rude, or aggressive. Their adoption realities may differ from ours, but in Mother Teresa’s paradigm, they are our “one another.”
Honestly, I believe every single adoption-focused social network and web forum could come down today, and international adoption would continue to flourish. Infertility alone will see to it, and altruism will fill in the gaps. The basic good in humanity will ensure that when children need homes, they will get them. No charge of cultural genocide will change that.
But for someone to figure out how to foster the kind of dialog that would acknowledge the value of intercountry adoption to children in real need of families while also acknowledging its flaws; seek opportunities to solve the root causes that make it necessary; foster collaboration to provide support to those living adoption; encourage people to reach outside their own point of view to learn from others; and respect constructive criticism – now THAT would be a feat.